Obsession of the Week : Memory Palaces

So here’s where my geeky side comes out. Oops. Sorry I’m not sorry. If you don’t like it, turn away. Recently, I’ve started going through noticeable phases in my obsessions. They don’t always last very long, but last week it was Rubik’s Cubes and how to solve them (yes, I did it, in case you’re wondering. I can solve any 3×3 cube in under 30 mins now. That’s kind of slow compared to many, but I just gave myself a week, so I can’t really expect much) and this week it’s Memory Palaces. In case you’re wondering, this is just a trick that can drastically improve your memory.

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Of course, I got this idea from Sherlock (the Season 3 finale episode goes into somewhat of detail about it) and I just had to see what it was all about. And then I became obsessed. As usual. (It’s never moderation with me, it’s always I’m absolutely infatuated or I really couldn’t care less *sighs dramatically*)

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So anyway, being the weirdo I am, I decided to share with the world the exact extent of my geekiness and tell you all about Memory Palaces (and how to make one, if you’re interested – so that we can go be psychos together, doesn’t that sound like fun?)

First of all, the thing I started off with was this video of Joshua Foer on TED. In case you don’t have time to go through the whole video, let me try and condense it for you as fast and simply as possible. Basically, the idea of a memory ‘palace’ has been around for thousands of years – the Greeks used it to remember long speeches – entire books, even! Back then, they didn’t have smartphones and, as such, they needed to remember things without aids.

So basically how this works is that you have to choose a place in your mind that you’re very familiar with – like your home or school or office or whatever. Any place that you know like the back of your hand. A place that you’re intimately familiar with – the sounds, smells and look of that place should be firmly embedded effortlessly in your mind. 

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Say, for example you take your own house. Plan out an exact route you’re going to take around your home. Lets say you start with your door and step into your foyer or hallway or whatever. Your shoe rack follows, then the kitchen, the living room, the master bedroom, the basement, your room, and so on. Map out the exact route you’re going to be mentally taking and firmly plant it in your head. Try not to deviate much.

Then take a list of things you want to remember – like a grocery list and try to place these things in your memory palace. Let’s say, for example, you need to remember to get some carrots, cottage cheese and a new screwdriver (I don’t know, Im just being random here). Now instead of just placing these things in your memory palace, you need to make them memorable – so that they’ll stick in your head.

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For instance, you can imagine two giant carrots, dressed in tutus playing the trumpet and opening your doors for you with your neighbours pointing and laughing. Now that’s hard to forget. Next, imagine as soon as you get in, you smell a rotten stinking stench of cheese way past it’s expiry date and when you look on your coffee table, you see Miley Cyrus licking a hammer. You can probably see where I’m going with this – the more whacky and crazy – the more likely you are to remember it.

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And that’s basically how it goes. The more you practise the better you get at it. You can put tonnes of information in your palace and in fact, you can have several palaces. There’s this Tumblr post I found that was really helpful that you could check out by clicking here. Hope you guys loved testing this out as much as I did!

Stay beautiful!

Deliya x 🙂

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Fangirling Is A Proffession : Part 1

First things first for those newbies on the internet – what exactly are ‘fandoms’ and what exactly is ‘fangirling’? Now, I myself, being a professional fangirl, know all there is to know about fandoms (being a part of at least 16 at present). I could quite literally write a book about this (yes, I have a mental conditions, but oops, whatchya gonna do) but, just to break it down for all the fresh faces out here, here’s some things you’ve got to know about fandoms.

fangirlWe’re crazy. Like, literally, mental. If you’re not part of our fandom, or are against are fandom, then you’re either in mortal danger of being sucked into it, being scared shitless by us and/or death. But, wait, I’m going way too fast. Let me start with the basic terms every fangirl must be sufficiently equipped with before they can do anything (or nothing) in a fandom.

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1.  Fandom – It is a ‘kingdom’ of fans of a certain book/movie/tv series. etc that are united in their extreme and obsessive love for that certain thing.

2. Fangirls – It doesn’t matter if you’re a boy or a girl. If you’re an active and obsessive member of a functional fandom, you’re called a fangirl. You’re most probably so overcome with feelings during your designated ‘fangirling’ sessions that you’re eventually rendered completely incapable of functioning in the real world. Welcome to the dark side!

3. OTP – It is the abbreviated form of ‘One-true-pairing’. It is a couple or any two characters from the book/movie/tv series, etc that you religiously wish together, or if they’re already together, then die constantly of happiness and imagine alternate realities for. You do NOT get in the way of or insult any fangirl’s OTP. If you end up dying a horrible fiery death, just remember that you’re the one who’d asked for it.

4. Ship – It isn’t a ship, in the literal sense. It is, simply put, 2 characters that you wish were a couple/thoroughly enjoy being a couple. For instance, if I ship Ramione (Ronald Weasley and Hermione Granger from Harry Potter) for instance then I think they’re (for the lack of a better phrase) totally perfect for each other/meant for each other.

5. Canon – It’s like an established truth. I don’t know, I can’t put it down any simpler.

I’m going to leave you with these five at first, but don’t think I haven’t got more for you.

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See, I’ll tell you how it all starts…

At first, you just read a book/ watch a movie or whatever and enjoy it. Later, you go on the internet and start researching about it. Further stalking of characters, plot and anyone and everyone involved in the making of your new obsession will eventually lead you to see that there’s an entire community of people online from all over the world waiting to accept you into this new creepy little world you’ve discovered. It starts with you thinking to yourself that ‘Meh, its just one shirt and a little toy…and 3 collector’s items…What could possibly go wrong?’

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And that, my friends is where it all really begins, because this is the point from where there is no turning back. Pretty soon, you’ll have collected everything in your budget that relates to that thing and will know everyone involved in this new fandom. At first, you’ll deny you have a problem, but gradually, you’ll accept that your normal, everyday functions are failing and you begin to accept you’re different and you’ll submit to your needs and feels. Eventually, you’ll pretty much be left alone at home on tumblr till late at night with no friends or plans whatsoever and you don’t even feel sorry because if you had to turn back time, there’s not a thing you’d change.

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After awhile, you’ll start labeling the few friends that you do have left as ‘People who get it‘ and those who don’t. After awhile you start judging everyone new you meet depending on their breadth and depth of their knowledge on your fandom. This new person doesn’t know the name of the street walked down on episode 108? Too bad, they probably weren’t worth knowing anyway. Pretty soon, you’ll be thinking of nothing but your OTP and your fandom and capslock will be the only (albeit still insufficient) way left to express all the feels you have. Its a hell of a cycle and boy, is it tiring, but remember, a true fangirl never rests. There are fanfics to be written, and gifs to be made, what are you lying around for??

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That’s all for guys, I’ll tell you more about how to properly identify and support other fandoms in the next section. Till, then, happy fangirling!

Deliya x 🙂

 

How To Make A Girl’s Day

So recently someone emailed me asking  how to make a girl feel special. I don’t know if this person asked as a friends or if this person likes a girl and wants to let her know she’s more than a friend to him. In any case, I thought I’d lend a hand to all those guys out there who’re wondering how to make their best girl friends or their girlfriends feel special. No matter who you are, here are some ways to make a girls day.

1. Compliment her

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This one’s simple and outright and pretty much obvious. Ever girl wants to and loves to be complimented (who doesn’t?). Whether this is your girlfriend (or someone you wish was your girlfriend) or yourfriend, the simplest way to make her smile is compliment her. Now be sure to space out the compliments. Don’t just pour them all into a a paragraph and make it all awkward. Just lay them on from time to time and she’ll definitely feel special around you. Another thing is to make sure you don’t only compliment her on her body or looks. I mean, those are nice and all, but maybe a little compliment on her personality or her eyes would feel a bit more warm and from the heart?

2.Surprise her

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A girl loves nothing more than proof that you’ve thought about her while she wasn’t in front of you. Make sure you know her well enough to get her something you know she’ll totally love. Maybe she’s a girly girl and loves bracelets and necklaces? Or maybe she’s a tomboy who likes hats and skateboards. Or a chocoholic? You’ve got to know her well enough to get her something she’ll love. In fact,ever better, is when you make her a gift. There’s nothing more personal than something you grew/made/organised on your own. Thats when shit gets real.

3. Don’t lie

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There’s absolutely NOTHING a girl hates more than being lied to, so the simple obvious other is to not lie to her. Girls being the way they are, generally know the truth (80% of the time) so why risk it?

4. Act Like You Care…

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Another simple way to make a girls day is listen to her. Talk to her, go out to eat with her, do something fun with her. In other words, show her you care. That spending time with her is something you like doing. That being seen in public with her (and not always your guy friends) is something you’re not only ‘macho’ enough to do but also love doing. Take her somewhere fun and interesting, make plans for her and listen to what she says. Girls love it when you remember the little things they’ve said earlier. It shows you were actually paying attention.

5. Always notice

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Guys I don’t know why, but this is really important to a girl : always ALWAYS notice when a girl does something new to her hair or her look in general. This is essential to both your happiness and that of the girl in question’s.

6. Respect her

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No girl likes a guy who’s always acting like a douche or a little bit too full of himself. I mean, yes, its definitely a fact that us girls are somehow more attracted to guys who aren’t total mama’s boys (a.k.a. the infamous bad boy) but even girls know the limit to acting like a jerk. Your girl deserves to be treated with respect – whether its to her opinions and decisions or to her body and personality. Also, make sure you’re not always talking about yourself when you’re with her. Try to listen to her and ask her how her day was for a change?

7. Don’t take ages to respond

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The last (and one of the most important) thing I’m going to tell you is to not take ages to respond to her text. You don’t seem busy, you just seem like a self-obsessed idiot. Its not nice to make a girl wait hours before you respond to her text. Another thing that goes along with this one is to send her a “Good morning” text. Let her know she was the first thing on your mind when you woke up. Girls love good morning texts, don’t ask us why because we probably couldn’t explain it to you anyway. Just do it.

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All in all guys, don’t be a complete good boy (break the rules for her once in a while) but be sweet and nice and thoughtful. Be there for her when she needs you and be patient with her (as she is with you). Stand up for her and keep her smiling and that ought to let her know you mean something to her. Hope that helped you!

Stay beautiful!

Deliya x 🙂

Bullying : Thoughts

So recently my baby sister’s been coming home and telling me about she’s been getting bullied at school by the ‘big popular girls’ and that she doesn’t want to go to school because of her. It’s really made me think, because (maybe it’s just me but) there really isn’t such terrible bullies in our year. I mean, no one is so mean to anyone else that it make them want to stop coming to school. Is the new generation just meaner? Has bullying got worse? Or are the kids just more insecure nowadays? Maybe its a mix of all of these, I wouldn’t know. But I just felt like I needed to write about this to spread the message.

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I understand that all children cannot have the same ‘social status’. Thats literally impossible. I also understand that as kids grow, they experience many changes and their social interactions change as well. But isn’t it sad that one social group feels the need to undermine another? And at such young ages too? Children are not originally born with the need to put-down others. They must be learning it from somwhere. Whether its TV, the internet or just imitating an older brother or sister, the source of child bullying has to start from outside, in a childs’ environment. Why else would a child do something so outside of the characteristic youth innocence?

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Bullying is not just pushing kids around on the playground anymore. Its much bigger than that, and there are many more forms to them than before. Words can hurt, we all know this. Its happened to us and to those around us. We know how it feels. Why would we want anyone else to feel like that? Stopping bullying is not easy – it is a widespread phenomenon and needs to be cut at the bud. Succumbing to what bullies say is not the way to stop them – trying to lose weight, becoming the picture perfect barbie doll and, in general, changing everything about yourself to avoid bullying just means that the bullies win. Saying no to bullying and standing up to the people you fear, showing them that its not ‘cool’ to make other people feel hurt are things we can do to make a difference. Easier said than done, I suppose, but either way, doing this a necessary step towards ending an unnecessary evil.

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How many kids have to die before people realise that bullying is bad?

Keep fighting. October is National Bullying Prevention Month. Be part of the movement and help spread awareness and help millions of children suffering from this. Touch the lives and sensitive hearts of those that need someone when noone else is there to help. Stay strong and stand up for what you believe in.

Stay beautiful

Deliya x 🙂

Fresh Talent : Kody Keplinger

So recently I read this book “The DUFF” (the Designated Ugly Fat Friend) by Kody Keplinger and it was amazing. Its about this seventeen-year-old girl Bianca Piper who is loyal and cynical but doesnt think she’s the prettiest of her friends by a long shot. She has a messed up life at home and it gets even more awry when she gets kissed by the school’s hottie Wesley Rush. I wont tell you more or I’ll give the plot away, but all I’ll say is that it was extremely moving and its a must have on your booklist.

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The Duff by Kody Keplinger

 

The book was authored by nineteen year old (as far as I know) Kody Keplinger who is a TV buff and Converse tennis shoe enthusiast. She describes herself as a hippie and is the author of three young adult novels The DUFF, A Midsummer’s Nightmare and Shut Out. She wrote her first book The Duff during her senior year at high school in Kentucky. Now she lives in New York and spends her time eating Thai food.

 

I loved this book and her writing style and though the plot isn’t very original, I really love the story just the same. You can find her on kodykeplinger.com or visit her blog.

Happy reading!

Deliya x 🙂