Recently I’ve been doing a lot of thinking since there’s been a lot going on in my life and its all been complicated and mixed up and a complete hot mess.
When you’re 17 or 18 as I am, there’ll be a lot of big life decisions to make and it can be very scary. An all-too-fast, all-too-real train into a misty unknown future thats just overwhelming you and the pressure starts pulling you under.
So this week I sat down to sort out my thoughts in my little blue notebook and I narrowed everything down to its basics : what I need to remember and reorganise and what I dont. What I need to worry about and what not. The basics of my life, so to speak. So here are some things I personally think everyone needs to remember for life that made me realise there are a lot of things we worry about for no absolute reason that just end up overly complicating our lives. (Shit is about to get real.)
1. Love Yourself
This one’s been sung over to death but who really follows it? How much simpler our lives would be if we just learned to love ourselves, as we are. How much time would we save each day not worrying excessively about what others will think of what we do, how we do it, when, why and how we look. Love our bodies, love our minds, love our hearts and love our souls. Its the only way we can spread love and joy to others – when we learn to love ourselves first.
2. Life teaches you lessons
From kings to paupers, life spares no one of lessons – albeit of different kinds. Everyone fights their own battles in life, and its not god to judge others’ or assume they have it easier. Noone’s life is fair or easy, and you might as well get used to the idea before you’re too disappointed later. Life bitch-slaps you sometimes, just for the heck of it, but everytime you get up, remember that it was just life trying to teach you something and you’re a better person for it.
3. No mistakes, only lessons
Life never EVER stops teaching you lessons so dont expect it to let up. You WILL make mistakes, theres absolutely no doubt about that, but to learn from them is the true test. Unless and until you do, life will keep throwing the same lessons back to you, harsher and larger each time until you finally get it. So learn your lessons the first time over. Revise your mistakes but don’t relive them.
4. Stop looking outside
Stop looking for the answers to life and love in the outside world. (I know it sounds cheesy but) the answers are all inside of you, as long as you’re willing to look for them long enough and hard enough. You will find what you’re searching for in the end. Look, listen and trust your insticts, they will guide you.
5. The grass isn’t greener
The grass isn’t greener on the other side. Its the greenest here and now, where you groom and water it. Even if you do cross over and reach ‘there’ or ‘the other side’ where the grass is supposedly greener, you’ll just end up finding another ‘there’ which is even greener and you’ll never be happy. So be content with what you have and where you are and do your best from there. Make your grass the greenest of all.
I’m going to stop now before I get too emotional over all this, but this is what I feel we must all always remember and incorporate in our lives. Simple things that easier said than done – but make our lives infinitely easier. Hope this helped some of you, the way it helped me.
Deliya x 🙂